The most obvious example though is the Mary and Martha story. Martha was in classic co-dependent mode ‘taking care’ of everyone with a martyr attitude that led her to persecute Mary, who wasn’t being as ‘loving’ as Martha herself.

And Jesus compassionately describes the classic co-dependent state of mind “Martha, you’re troubled about many things.” Mary meanwhile was doing what was more important to her than being a good hostess. She was listening to Jesus.

Mary is not chided by Jesus that she should have been taking care of others, like Martha was. Jesus says that Mary chose a better thing to do, taking care of her spiritual development, and that she shouldn’t stop because someone thought she was too heavenly minded to be of earthly good.